Unless you know what you want, you can't get it.
Want is the only prerequisite for getting what you want.
This may not feel true if you've ever gotten something without really wanting it, but here's the thing: you got it because somebody else wanted it for you.
What do you want so badly that you're willing to suffer for it?
You're going to suffer in life one way or another, so you may as well be suffering for something that feels worth it.
What are you willing to sacrifice precious time to obtain or achieve?
This life doesn't start over. Time goes in one direction. You might get another chance in another life, but this chance happens only once.
So what do you want? It doesn't need to be a grand thing. It doesn't need to be a world-changing thing. It only needs to be something that you really want, something that's meaningful enough to change your life in a positive way.
It's okay to be selfish with this step because if it's something that's truly good for you it will be truly good for others too—nothing ever only affects you.
Be specific. Write it down. Start small, but start. Take it seriously. It doesn't need to be perfect, but it does need to be specific.
If you want everything, you'll get nothing. If you want nothing, you'll get what everybody else wants for you. But if you learn to start with something, if you learn to be specific, if you learn to achieve clarity around whatever it is that you really want, then you can get anything.
Start by moving towards something. The journey, no matter how short, will expose you to new perspectives that will reveal bigger and better things.
But you won't even see what you can get until you start moving, until you decide and clarify what you really want, right now.